Showing posts with label resilience. Show all posts
Showing posts with label resilience. Show all posts

22 Apr 2021

Eight tips to managing your wellbeing during Covid times.


Guest post by Laura Gallagher. Laura works part time in the Digital Publishing and Data Services section in Maynooth University Library.  She's a busy mum of three.  In her spare time shes goes for a run or a long cycle.  She loves the countryside and getting out into the open fresh air.     

In this blog post, I outline the importance of managing your wellbeing during Covid times and share with you eight tips that I have learnt over the past few months. These have helped me manage working from home with balancing home schooling (or the new found term ‘Emergency Schooling’), life and exercise. I make suggestions on how you can make these tips work for you. 

It’s important to realise that while we are all going through this pandemic together, how we are going through it differs from person to person and experience to experience.  The best advice that I have read over and over is simple, just four small words -  however we are feeling and whatever experience we are going through like everything else in life “This too will pass”.


  1. 1. Adequate Sleep A simple yet important tip.  Sleep is important for our physical and mental health.  A good restful night’s sleep sets you up for the day ahead however busy it may be. The HSE website recommends that Most people need between 5 to 9 hours sleep a night. The ideal amount is 8 hours, but everyone's different.  When I have difficulty sleeping I try to read a chapter of my book and if that doesn’t work I imagine I am on a beach listening to the sound of the sea.  There is also a wide range of music for sleep and relaxation free of charge available on Youtube.


  1. 2. My second most important tip is to Eat Right.  Start the day with a healthy breakfast.  Sit down and take your lunch whether you are working or not.  Cook a dinner even if you are tired, you will be glad you did and allow yourself a treat without feeling guilty.  Lockdown for me has actually benefited my choice of eating as I love starting the day with porridge or eggs.  Before ‘Covid times’, I would race out the door with barely a coffee in my hand and wonder why I was so hungry later in the day.


  1. 3. Get some Exercise and Sunlight.  Make it exercise you enjoy so you will stick to it.  There is nothing better than getting outside for fresh air, be it a short walk on your own or with company or a cycle or that run you crave.  Exercise releases that ‘happy hormone’ and certainly improves your mood and allows you to think and clear your head.  Sunlight also improves your overall wellbeing.  Try get out during the day if you can even for 10 minutes.  The HSE advice is Regular exercise can help improve your sleep. But try to avoid exercise in the hour before bedtime.


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  1. 4. Working From Home and Home Schooling - This has become the norm for a lot of us.  In the beginning I found myself with a laptop at the kitchen table with the kids screaming around me.  It was chaos.  Now I have my laptop set up in my ‘walk in wardrobe’.  It’s my space and I can think and work quite happily there.  I have set a ‘somewhat’ routine for home schooling.  It doesn’t always go to plan but for the best part it has worked.  It’s about finding a routine that works for you and your family and if it doesn’t always go to plan, most importantly, don’t get stressed about it!


  1. 5. My fifth tip is dealing with the dreaded Anxiety and managing Stress that Covid has brought to many.  This tip is definitely still a learning area for me.  It’s hard to sum up in a short tip.  Stress can be hard to ‘turn off’ for many.  Lately when I am feeling a little anxious or stressed, I find myself looking out the window to the furthest part my eyes will allow me see and I remind myself of a quote I heard from Mícheál Ó Muircheartaigh in an interview and he said “I never worry about things like that. Others spend a long time worrying about that, and worrying is not good for you. Most of the things you worry about never materialise.”  “I’d be a believer in that.”   I find this quote helps me to stop worrying about things and brings me back to my day.


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  1. 6. Stay Connected with your family and friends.  It’s easy at the end of the day or week to just sit down and not want to talk to anyone.  By sending a quick text or making a quick call, you are not just connecting with your family and friends but you are reminding them that you are there if they need you and if you need them.  Afterall, there is nothing better than a good giggle with the people who know you best.  I love writing letters even short ones.  There is nothing better than receiving a handwritten letter or card in the post.  Dr Keith Gaynor, assistant professor in clinical psychology at the School of Psychology, UCD said ‘human beings worked better when we are connected.  This means the dreaded Zoom quiz and the awkward phone conversation when no one has anything to say, but these connections are important and much better than nothing at all.’ (Evening Hearld, Herald Health, Wednesday 3rd March ’21)     


  1. 7. Learn to relax a while.  Just breathe.  Listen to the clock ticking and the birds singing.  Listen to the lawn mower going in a distance and take the time, even if that time is two minutes to just relax and close your eyes.  It’s very easy to get caught in the race of your day.  This is a tip I’ve really only grown to know and appreciate recently and I think I will keep with me forever.  Listen to your favourite music or soak in a warm bath.  Watch a rerun of your favourite sports match.  Do something that you enjoy and you find relaxing.  It will help you unwind from the day and you will reap the benefits.


  1. 8. I deliberately left my eighth tip to last as I think this one is extremely important, Covid times or not.  My eighth and final tip Be kind to yourself.  If your work day didn’t go to plan and home schooling was a disaster or you never got outside, it doesn’t matter.  Tomorrow is another day.  Try and organise your next day by writing down a plan and see if that helps you work your day better.  Don’t be hard on yourself but try and learn from your ‘bad days’ to make better ‘good days’.  I don’t keep a diary, I tend to write a log on things I need to do, I even write ‘go for a walk’ to myself.  On the ‘good days’ where everything goes smoothly, remember them and remind yourself of them when you are having a bad day.  I love Dermot Kennedy’s cover of ‘Days Like This’, I think he really brings the meaning of the song together.  Give it a listen and remember ‘when it’s not always raining, they’ll be days like this’.


So there you have it my eight tips to managing a better wellbeing during Covid times.  I hope you enjoyed reading this blog post.  By sharing my tips with you, I hope that you can take even just one tip, use it to your benefit and make it work for you.   

I know everyone’s experience of Covid times are different.  I certainly count myself lucky that I can work from home and try and balance the everyday’s of life.   I think I’ve learned to appreciate the small things and enjoy not having to race constantly from one place to another.  I often think that when things resume to the somewhat normal that we are used to, dare I say it, I might even miss this ‘quiet time’.



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21 Dec 2020

It’s not Personal: How to develop a resilient mindset when job searching

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Guest post by Edel King, Maynooth University Library. Edel is an MLIS graduate currently working as a Library Assistant in MU Library. Her professional interests include Information Literacy, User Experience and Social MediaIntroduction

I graduated from University College Dublin (UCD) with a Master’s Degree in Library and Information Studies in 2015. Since then, I have been interviewed about 30 times for various posts and was successful on only five occasions. That’s not the best success rate. As a result, I have had to develop resilience in the face of all of that rejection. It has been so hard not to take it personally, to not be put off the next interview, to try again and try harder. In this blog, I will be giving some of the tips and resources that I have found useful, in developing my resilience.

What is resilience and Why is it important?

Resilience has been variously defined as the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; the ability to “bounce back” and learn from experience; the ability to move on and not dwell on failures. Resilience is about having a growth mind-set. A growth mindset says that intelligence is to be developed. With a growth mind-set, you embrace challenges, persist in the face of setbacks, see effort at the path to mastery, learn from criticism and find lessons and inspiration in the success of others.

Resilience while job seeking

Job seeking can be difficult as a lot of the time it may not go your way, and it can take longer to achieve your goal than you expected. This is where resilience comes in. Bouncing back from the latest rejection, learning from it and staying motivated to move on to the next application/interview are all skills that you can learn to help you on the journey. 

With that in mind, the following are some resources and tips that I have found helpful to me as I seek to advance in my career.

Some resources and tips to help build resilience

Tips

Don’t take it personally. It can be easy, when you get a rejection to think, oh I’m not good enough, they didn’t want me. But this is a direct road to losing motivation and stalling or stopping the job search. The interviewers have a position to fill, just one. They may have really liked you, thought you had great experience and the skills necessary for the job. But the successful applicant might just have an edge on you. It could be tiny but maybe it was enough to get them over the line. It’s not that you were bad. Use it as a reason to further develop your skills, get more varied experience and practice selling yourself better.

Ask for Feedback. When you come out of an interview and then again when you get a rejection, you could easily fixate on an answer you gave, where you could have done better. But you don’t really know why you didn’t get the job. The only people who do know are the ones who interviewed you. So approach them and ask for feedback. You need to do this through the appropriate channels. It may be via your Human Resources Department or directly from the chair of the interview panel.  Most interviewers will be happy to help you and pleased that you were interested enough to ask for feedback in the first place. Then the mystery is removed – you know why you didn’t get the job and what you need to improve on for the next interview.

Get Networking. Get out there and talk to others in the field you want to enter/advance in. Networking can be difficult; putting yourself out there and introducing yourself to strangers can be daunting but it can also be one of the best things you can do. You never know who you will end up talking to; what tips they will give, opportunities they know of or courses they have done that have helped them. 

Resources

I undertook a course on LinkedIn aimed at building resilience (What, Why and How to Become Resilient). Topics covered include “Build a resilience threshold”, “Face uncomfortable situations” and “Connect with your Advisory Board”. The course takes you through, step by step, manageable everyday ways of building resilience and being able to apply it to lots of different, work based, situations. 

American psychologist Carol Dweck’s TED talk on the concept of “Not Yet” is useful (Developing a Growth Mind Set). It’s aimed at school teachers but the ideas within can be applied anywhere. She posits that instead of telling somebody when they don’t do well in a test or challenge of some sort (or in my case, an interview) that they failed, you switch the perspective to “not yet” with notes on how to improve. Switching your mind set from, “I didn’t get that job because I am not good enough” to “I didn’t get that job because I wasn’t ready for it yet but I know what I need to improve on to get there” can really help develop a positive mind set.

Conclusion

Job searching can be very difficult. But there is plenty of support and advice out there to help you build resilience and develop a positive mind set. The one take away I learned from all of the resources that I consulted was not to struggle alone; to reach out, whether by taking a course or talking to someone you trust. 

Best of luck with it – you’ll get there!